Wednesday, May 11, 2016

INK RIPPLES AND MEMORIES

#InkRipples is a monthly meme created by Kai Strand, Mary Waibel, and Katie L. Carroll. They post on the first Monday of every month with a new topic. They're all authors, but you don't have to be to participate.
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Topics for 2016:

May: Memories
June: Movies
July: Inspiration
August: Guilty Pleasures
September: Banned Books
October: Masks
November: Heritage
December: Cookies

 
 
My Memories
 
It's really strange that this month is "Memories." For quite a while now, I've been remembering the past, I mean way back, years ago. I don't know why these memories have been with me lately. I suppose there is a reason.
 
The first one is of my firstborn son who lived for only two days. For years I didn't think about him. I think it was easier not to. It hurt less. Then a few months back I had this urge to do something in his memory. My oldest son made a lovely heart shaped necklace with his name engraved on it. Also with the granddaughter's name, who is in Heaven too. I wear the necklace quite often. And I feel a closeness to them. They lived, if not for long, but I now have their memories in the form of a locket.
 
I wanted to do more. So I wrote a memoir, A Lullaby for David. A lot of things I don't remember, but writing this brought back memories I thought I'd forgotten. I'm glad I wrote it.
 
Then there's my latest book, loosely based on memories of my mother's childhood as an orphan and foster child. I've wanted to write this for years, but I knew so few of the facts. Mom never talked about those years. So parts of my story are true, parts are fiction. It's labeled as historic fiction. And you know what? I understand her better today, after researching the lives of the children that rode the Orphan Trains west.
 
Memories are good. But I think we need them at different times in our lives. When we're ready for them.
 
Do you have memories you love to recall? This meme is a good place to share them.
 
Happy Reading.
 

 
 

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28 comments:

  1. I'm sorry about your first child. That was nice of your son to make the necklace.
    There are some memories that are best saved for when we can handle them.

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    1. Yes, I agree. We deal with things during different stages of our lives. My son is a jeweler and does beautiful work.

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  2. Big hugs. I'm so sorry you went through that. I had a miscarriage, but it was early on. That is nothing at all like what you went through. How beautiful that you still honor him and make him part of your family.

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    1. My blessings for you, Stephanie. It took me years, but I finally decided he'll always be part of my life.

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  3. Losing a child is a terrible tragedy. It's so true what you said about needing our memories but at different times in our lives. Some memories are too painful until we're ready for them. Thank you for sharing this beautifully thoughtful post.

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    1. For a long time, I kept it to myself, but lately, I've been wanting to share my story, Katie. Maybe it will help others.

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  4. Yeah, there are many memories that one day aren't there and then the next are. The harder ones seem to crop up when we can deal with them better.

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    1. I agree, Pat. We go through different stages in our lives and do the best we can.

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  5. I can't even imagine how tough that must've been for you, Beverly. I'm so sorry for your loss. Losing a child is devastating.

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    1. It was, Kelly, and I had trouble dealing with it at the time, so I tried not to think about it. Now I want to remember.

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  6. This beautiful post sparked so many thoughts for me & it's difficult to choose which to share. I'm reading Leona's story now and wondering if she truly did hold onto the expectation of her father's return for so long or if that is part of your character development. Either way, it's heartbreaking. Speaking of heartbreaking...I'm sorry you lost a child. It's wonderful that you honor him.

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    1. You are a very caring person, Kai. Good question about Leona. Sometimes we want something so badly we can't let go, until we finally realize it's hopeless. That takes different lengths of time for different people. I can now, for a while I preferred to not think about him.

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  7. So sorry to hear about your first child, it's hard to take. I lost three after I had my daughter but that was in the early stages of pregnacy but I felt an awful loss.
    A wonderful post to read Beverly.
    Yvonne.

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    1. Oh, I'm sorry, Yvonne. Sure you would feel the loss. With time, it gets easier to remember, at least it has for me. And I have my three other boys to love also.

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  8. Very sorry to learn about the loss of your first child and granddaughter, Beverly. The lockets and books are precious ways to remember them by.

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    1. Thank you, Claudine. Yes, I decided I wanted something, since I have no pictures or other items to remember them.

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  9. So sorry about your loss, Beverly. Its so tough to lose someone close to you. Hugs.

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    1. Thanks, Romance Reader. At some point in our lives we all lose those we love. They're waiting for us, though.

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  10. What a beautiful way to remember those you lost with the heart necklace. And I'm so glad you wrote a memoir. A great way to keep and cherish memories. Also you book about the orphan train sounds amazing!

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    1. The necklace is lovely, Rebecca. I should have thought of it years ago. The book is a story dear to my heart though much of it is fictional.

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  11. It's lovely that way you're honoring your son and granddaughter by wearing the necklace. I know nothing of my mother's childhood -- she was a closed, private woman -- but I love the story you've written to memorialize your mother's struggles and happy ending!

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    1. Some people are very private, Lexa. My mom was that way too. She never talked about the past. We visited my "grandparents" her foster family, but at the time I did not know her story. Wish I'd asked questions. But didn't.

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  12. A very beautiful way to remember. Sad to lose people but we have to move on with good memories of them.

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    1. You are right, Nas. We have the memories always.

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  13. What a great way to remember those that have passed. My sincerest sympathy for your losses. You are a strong woman. It is wonderful that you could write about such painful memories. There are still a few memories I'm running from, but hopefully, like you mentioned, "I will be ready for them some day." Wishing you and your family well, Beverly.

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    1. Yes, I should have thought of it sooner. It may take you awhile to face those memories, Murees, like it did me. When the time is right. Thanks.

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  14. I love the locket because it is a way to hold those you have lost close to your heart. I am so sorry for your losses and I am glad that writing was a good experience for you. A Lullaby for David sounds very powerful.

    Your historical fiction book sounds fascinating. I recently learned a little bit about the orphan trains and I can't imagine what those kids went through. I am so curious about your book. :)
    ~Jess

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    1. Yes, I don't know why I didn't think of it years ago, Jess. I love it now.

      There are some great books out about the orphan train children. I belong to their organization in Kansas. My mother never talked about her experience so I knew nothing until I read an article in the newspaper about them.

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